We know that opposites attract. We can be drawn to those that have qualities that we dont have or wish we had.
Now I'm not talking about the physical side of things more on personality, habits and interests.
For example one person is quite and shy and their partner is very social and vocal. Or one is more of an intellectual type and their partner does not know the front end of a book.
Now what I was wondering if those qualities that first attracted you, eventually annoy you?
Who has b  more...

We know that opposites attract. We can be drawn to those that have qualities that we dont have or wish we had.
Now I'm not talking about the physical side of things more on personality, habits and interests.
For example one person is quite and shy and their partner is very social and vocal. Or one is more of an intellectual type and their partner does not know the front end of a book.
Now what I was wondering if those qualities that first attracted you, eventually annoy you?
Who has been in relationships like this, did this become a problem?
Can this be overcome or should we be looking for someone that is nearly a mirror image of ourselves? less...

Quoting: Originally posted by Katwoman1968 You are correct Aries....it is YING & YANG

Sorry Catwoman, In the context being used in this blog, it's actually YIN & YANG.

Ying and Yang are a rap group.

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Since when? If i'm wrong, i'm wrong, but was taught at school/told it was ying & yang. Apart from the obvious,it's to do with a Chinese myth about twins too...aint it?

Sometimes it's called Tai-Chi symbol. The Tai-Chi is from I-Ching. The I-Ching is the greatest foundation of Chinese philosophy. It?s development is from the natural phenomena of our universe.

When observing the cycle of the Sun, ancient Chinese simply used a pole about 8 fe  more...

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Since when? If i'm wrong, i'm wrong, but was taught at school/told it was ying & yang. Apart from the obvious,it's to do with a Chinese myth about twins too...aint it?

Sometimes it's called Tai-Chi symbol. The Tai-Chi is from I-Ching. The I-Ching is the greatest foundation of Chinese philosophy. It?s development is from the natural phenomena of our universe.

When observing the cycle of the Sun, ancient Chinese simply used a pole about 8 feet long, posted at right angles to the ground and recorded positions of the shadow. Then they found the length of a year is around 365.25 days. They even divided the year's cycle into 24 Segments, including the Vernal Equinox, Autumnal Equinox, Summer Solstice and Winter Solstice, using the sunrise and Dipper positions.

They used six concentric circles (see chart below), marked the 24-Segment points, divided the circles into 24 sectors and recorded the length of shadow every day. The shortest shadow is found on the day of Summer Solstice. The longest shadow is found on the day of Winter Solstice. After connecting each lines and dimming Yin Part from Summer Solstice to Winter Solstice, the Sun chart looks like below. The ecliptic angle 23 26' 19'' of the Earth can be seen in this chart.

In general, the Yin Yang symbol is a Chinese representation of the entire celestial phenomenon. It contains the cycle of Sun, four seasons, 24-Segment Chi, the foundation of the I-Ching and the Chinese calendar.

... and so concludes your lesson for the day. Thank you for behaving yourself. :0P less...

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Since when? If i'm wrong, i'm wrong, but was taught at school/told it was ying & yang. Apart from the obvious,it's to do with a Chinese myth about twins too...aint it?

You are correct Aries....it is YING & YANG

Sorry - all the ?s replace Chinese symbols in my last post

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Since when? If i'm wrong, i'm wrong, but was taught at school/told it was ying & yang. Apart from the obvious,it's to do with a Chinese myth about twins too...aint it?

Don't believe me? Just Google it ......
In Chinese philosophy, yin and yang (simplified Chinese: ????; traditional Chinese: ????; pinyin: y??ny??ng) are generalized descriptions of the antitheses or mutual correlations in human perceptions of phenomena in the natural world, co  more...

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Since when? If i'm wrong, i'm wrong, but was taught at school/told it was ying & yang. Apart from the obvious,it's to do with a Chinese myth about twins too...aint it?

Don't believe me? Just Google it ......
In Chinese philosophy, yin and yang (simplified Chinese: ????; traditional Chinese: ????; pinyin: y??ny??ng) are generalized descriptions of the antitheses or mutual correlations in human perceptions of phenomena in the natural world, combining to create a unity of opposites in the theory of the Taiji. The term liang yi (simplified Chinese: ????; traditional Chinese: ???x; pinyin: li??ngy??, lit. "two mutually correlated opposites"), also known as Yin and Yang less...

Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Want to thank all of you so much for adding your thoughts. Many a wise word have been said here. Though I have to say that I still do not have an answer to some of my questions...now maybe I wasn'...

Having read all your comments on here I would have to say I think maybe the problem is perspective. Maybe you aren't seeing things in your partner clearly enough from the get-go. Take the jokester - can he be serious? This is something you need to l  more...

Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Want to thank all of you so much for adding your thoughts. Many a wise word have been said here. Though I have to say that I still do not have an answer to some of my questions...now maybe I wasn't clear enough with it in the first place. he he OK, so you have met the person of your dreams, you think. One of the things that attracted you was that, for example, they loved to help show you how to do something/learn new things. In the beginning this is rather attractive to you, you felt your partner cared, wants to spend time with you and was interested in you. You genuinely like this about him/her. Now take it down the track maybe 6 months or years, and now you feel different. Your partner who still does the same things now irritates you. You feel that they are always trying to correct you, maybe change you or even make you appear stupid. What once was such an endearing quality has turned onto your mini nightmare. OK you guys still with me??? he he So what do you do now? Do you ask for your partner to stop doing this though you may have loved them for it at the start? Can they stop it if this is who they are? Are there any warning signs that you should have seen to alert you to this right at the start? Can you stop it from getting to the point of "I cant take anymore of this"? If so how?

Having read all your comments on here I would have to say I think maybe the problem is perspective. Maybe you aren't seeing things in your partner clearly enough from the get-go. Take the jokester - can he be serious? This is something you need to learn early on. The sarcastic wit - can he be empathetic? Can you have a conversation without sarcasm? Your shy friend - I'm not sure why you found that embarassing... I guess it was important to you that he be outgoing/sociable. I think there would be a big difference between whether he was just affably quiet in a group setting or if he was sullenly quiet.

But the thing is you can't expect to change your partner's personality traits (or ask them to change for you) no matter how much they love you. If it is only a behavior you want them to change I think it would depend if that behavior is inherent to the person. Something like leaving the toilet seat up or the cap off the toothpaste is a behavior that could probably be changed. Something like hiding behind sarcasm/jokes, or being shy are not likely to be changeable. That is why it is important that you take the time to get to know your partner before jumping willy-nilly into a relationship/love. You need to decide if you can love them just as they are. If you can't you need to let them go. less...

I think It is a balanceing act to find some one who meshes with your personality , yet allows you to grow and not to overwhelm you, to be there when you ned them to be but yet allow you time to yourself. It is a mater of balance. The far eastern cultures have two words for it Ying and Yang. Simply meaning the two haves make a compleate harmonious whole yet neither over powers the other

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Tiz 'Ying' and it's NOT dirty, if you BOTH enjoy it...i should know.xxx

"Yin" actually - if you insist on correcting people at least do it correctly!

My profile has a comment on it that says, "I don't need you to be just like me. I think the differences people bring to relationships can enhance them as much as the similarities." and it's there for a very specific reason.

Sometimes, the differences in someone else become the gifts that are the most endearing. A love of books might lead to reading erotic fiction to each other at night in bed. Quiet can help temper vocal and vocal can draw out and give voice to the still waters t  more...

My profile has a comment on it that says, "I don't need you to be just like me. I think the differences people bring to relationships can enhance them as much as the similarities." and it's there for a very specific reason.

Sometimes, the differences in someone else become the gifts that are the most endearing. A love of books might lead to reading erotic fiction to each other at night in bed. Quiet can help temper vocal and vocal can draw out and give voice to the still waters that run deep through quiet hours.

Yin and yang dance. Always. It is as mysterious as attraction ... or love itself. There are so many little pieces that draw people together and become the building blocks of a relationship. It is less a question of 'what' and more about adding them all up (over time) and seeing if it is enough.

I had no idea my heart could do a back flip until I saw my first real boyfriend go under the hood of my old '73 Pontiac Catalina with my dad one day to try and get it running again. And who knew a man in a pair of faded camo pants and a snug white t-shirt, in a rented boat on a beautiful early summer day, could make me hot as hades and happy to go fishing for hours, just by baiting my hook and looking all protective and manly while doing it. I didn't ... but I do now.

Be open to unexpected gifts ... and the possibility they might be entirely different than what you imagined. less...